About the beauty of a woman: an assigned essay

What have I learned in life about the beauty of a woman?

I have learned that woman is made in the image of God.  There is something distinct about women that reflects God’s image.  Woman is not less valuable or capable in God’s eyes when she yields to her husband’s leadership.  Rather, her role as a nurturer and pillar of support makes a complete example of the way God made all creation to work. 

Personal Story:  I did not want to identify with women because it seemed like they weren't treated well. Nor did I like the flirty shallow ways my girlfriends used to manipulate. I didn't feel that I was pretty.  Boys didn't like me.  They wanted my friendship to help them get close to the pretty girls.  So I tried to make myself boyish or look like a slob.  In college a Bible study helped me learn to embrace who God made me to be.  I also took notice of hair styles and clothing colors that fit my shape and skin.  I still have to tell myself often, "I am who The Great I AM says I am."   I have learned to embrace being a woman because that’s who God made me to be.  He has created me for good works that He ordained, and they do not include using my influence for wrong or for power.   I want to have my identity firmly rooted in the new creation I am as a woman in Christ, so that He can make something beautiful from my life.   

• I have learned that while some faces and bodies seem beautiful, their beauty can be negated by an ugly heart.
• A woman sometimes loses all her beauty the moment she opens her mouth.  
• Beauty gets uglier and uglier the more it's commercialized. 
• A woman's beauty can also be ruined through misuse or abuse.  
• And even plain faces are radiant when they are taught by lovely heart.  

There are a few beautiful women that I admire.  Their attitudes stay young as their bodies age.  Their lips and hands are full of serving others.  Their hearts are compassionate and teachable.  They talk to and about their husbands with respect.  They are genuine, without hypocrisy.  They are hard-working, but not hardened. 

Rebecca Werner: nickname given by husband: “the Beck.” age 45.  Married 25 years.  7 kids, 2 still births.  Hardest working farm wife I know.  Gorgeous without trying to be.  Desperately wanted to go to the mission field, but her husband didn’t agree.  She yielded; they stayed on the farm; and God has brought dozens of hired men through their home from a dozen different countries.  He brought the mission field to them, and their home is a ministry.  She even cares for her father-in-law in their home.  She has much to teach, yet she is teachable and so giving.  She matures, but does not seem to age.  Becky exudes a quiet, strong beauty that doesn’t knock you over when you meet her.  You can just feel that there is something very special about this woman.  I want to be her in 10 years.                                                                                    

 Becky is on the far left.

• simple glamour
• serves her husband and family whole-heartedly, with great respect
• generous
• youthful and hard working
• intelligent, articulate, funny and fun-loving
• hospitality
• cares for the lost

Ellen Paulton

 age: 80s.  Married:  60 years.  4 or 5 adult kids plus grands and great-grands.  Bright shining blue eyes, wavy white hair, ready smile.  Hair and makeup is always done.  She stays fit and eats healthy.  She is the hardest working ranch wife I know, and that is saying an awful lot.  Her husband is going downhill with his memory and other health problems, adding to her responsibilities.  As a family, they are highly respected in the community for their service and years of integrity.  Their home is always open for hospitality—the food, the bedrooms, the pastures, the gardens.  Their children have grown to high places of leadership and ministry around the U.S.  She knows the Bible in and out and loves to learn from it.  She grows in wisdom, yet does not seem to age.   Ellen has a gentle way of offering guidance to young women, in Titus 2 fashion.  She has a wealth of knowledge and skills, and she’s willing to take time to share them.  I want to be her in 25 years.

                         Ellen is in the middle of the photo.

• well-groomed ranch wife
• quietly cooks and gardens
• hospitality, generosity
• tough, inner endurance
• vast abilities
• apt to teach
• intelligent and articulate

Mary Parker

• gracious
• giving
• makes you feel loved
• open home and heart
• nurturing
• realistic about her limitations
• able to explain things really well

Betty Jo Mathis

• humorous writer
• rural pastor's wife
• large, diverse family
• shares the gospel constantly
• always gives you a tidbit to think about
• never retires

Mary Lou Miller

• cut to the chase
• lovely in body and manner
• cares deeply about the lost

Mandy Caley

• faces the truth and doesn't hide it
• heart for the lost
• articulate in several cultures
• treats everyone without condescension

Denny Johnson

• radiant
• exudes joy; spreads cheer
• gives and gives

Barb Sayer and Sheri Coleman

• look you in the eyes and expect you to step up
• strong and accomplished
• stand by their men
• able to ingratiate themselves
• direct, without being biting

Anneke Labutes and Joe Charles (not a woman, but influenced me)

• 100% Grace
• 100% Truth
• never grow old
• warm and loving
• humorous; dancing eyes
• loved music

"Mama, Everything is New"

Well, isn't it? Doesn't spring just keep coming year after year and we're astonished every time? The little ones and I are exclaiming on every corner of the property about the bloomingness of it all.

February went out and March came in with lightning, wind, hail and tornadoes. And cloud shows.


June, is that you? March got so warm, for so many days, that we couldn't be sure..

Here are the 7 new chicks. Naming debates have begun. "Name them all Dave," says one. "How about Nick, Sally and Shelly?" says another. "Mom, which one is yours?" For one thing, they're all supposedly pullets; for another, I just can't get Sally Mae, Slim, Loper, Hank, Drover and Pete out of my head. We've been on a Hank the Cowdog kick. And another thing--five of them look identical. How about we name them all "Egg?" By the way, this is the two-room cardboard house the kids made them in art class. The house got named "The Cozy Cone." All that loving care, and the chicks outgrew it in a week anyhow. But that's part of the miracle of spring.


Here are some new-to-us little gals that moved in recently. Looking out over the treeless plain above my morning coffee, I shake my head and think, "Am I seeing things?" Picturesque as they are, I vote we don't name them this time. K?


And it wouldn't be spring in kid land without PROGRAMS. I also have to shake the cobwebs off my eyes at this little church family. Am I seeing things? So much out here hasn't changed since the one-room school house days.

So go get a little dirt under your fingernails, already!